The Bright Side of Dissapointment
Posted on February 26, 2013
First of all, THANK YOU to everyone that watched my scholarship application video to B-School, liked it, and took time to give such amazing comments and feedback. I truly felt your love, support, and encouragement.
Unfortunately, I did not make the cut (and that really is UN-fortunate as the program costs big money!). That being said, I am doing the program anyway because I feel it is an extraordinarily wise investment for me on many levels. Receiving the news that I didn’t get the scholarship came as a blow though, and inspired a wellness article on dealing with disappointment in a healthy and self-loving way.
First step I took was to acknowledge that it sucked to not get what I wanted. I saw the email come in announcing the winners, and even though my heart was pounding in anticipation, I had the feeling the news was not in my favor. When that was confirmed, I was sad. So I let myself be sad for minute. Damn! I really thought I had a chance.
I believe allowing yourself to be real with how you’re feeling is so important. Too often, I have pushed hurt feelings aside or deep down low, and they end up manifesting as stress, frustration, anger, or some form of physical discomfort. However, when I acknowledge the true feeling, it passes quickly. It’s as though recognizing its presence gives it permission to leave. Otherwise, it just keeps knocking at your door in strange and aggravating ways until you pay attention.
Rather than over-staying my welcome at my own pity party, I quickly flipped to the bright side by examining the benefits of the experience. There was so much positive to be gained from the process of making the video, it would be difficult to ignore. Here are my musings:
1) I took a big risk and did something that made me nervous and uncomfortable by putting myself on camera. This is an area I want to grow in and I took hold of this opportunity to challenge myself to do so, even though it was totally out of my comfort zone. That is awesome.
2) I had 90 seconds to talk about what I do and why I do it. This forced me to boil it down to the essence, and that is always a good thing. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the stress of running a business, but when you bring it back to the WHY, you feel nothing but joy and gratitude for being able to bring to the world what you love most, in my case, the wellness and bliss that comes with practicing yoga. Such a blessing!
3) I got to collaborate with knowledgeable people and learn something new. That awesome editing was not my doing, but that of my dear friend G and her friend Taylar, who are both geniuses with iMovie. Watching them in action helped me learn some new tricks, so now I feel more empowered to put together my own cool videos. Hurray!
4) I experienced the joy of asking for help and rallying support around me. This can be a hard thing to do. For me, this is hard. But I made the request, I put it out there, and so many of you came through for me in a big way. I also got to read some of the ways that I have impacted your lives, which was heart warming and so reinforcing. Thank you for your generosity. Again, I am so blessed.
5) This is not going to be a free ride for me, which means, that is added incentive to get the absolute most I can out of the experience. I am thrilled to dive deep into this program.
6) Last but not least, my video helped to inspire a fellow yogi and friend to do the same program! So now I have a local partner to experience this with and with whom to share support, encouragement, and enthusiasm for the growth of our dream businesses. Super cool!
After all that positive reflection, is there even a downside? Hardly. When you don’t get something you wanted, don’t get stuck on the downside my friends. Acknowledge your feelings, take what you learned in your gracious heart, then rise above to fearlessly face the next golden challenge that fuels your growth.
I am dying to know, how do you deal with disappointment? Can you give a specific example of when this occurred and what you were able to take from it? I so love these conversations.
Yours in brightness,